a look back

It’s been a little over three months (wow three whole months) since I started this blog and as the school term comes to an end, I’d like to take a moment to reflect on my experience of having this blog.

What have we learned? What has been accomplished? What meaning has been brought to our lives?

We’ve been through a lot together, and *insert strains of nostalgic music*

Sorry I had to get that out of my system.

But really now.

Over these past few months, I’ve learned a little something-something about what it means to have a blog: specifically, what it means to be the author of a blog about Asian Americans.

Remember my second blog post, the one about Techne?

Techne is defined in the dictionary as “the principles or methods employed in making something or attaining an objective.” Teche is also a tool and form of rhetoric, the art of effective writing, with which comes the need to convince readers of my legitimacy through use of Aristotle’s ethos (trust), pathos (emotion), and logos (logic).

Well, I’ve now come to realize how very relevant techne is to how I express myself on this blog, not to mention how other Asian Americans express themselves and their opinions concerning the Asian American community. At the very least, those successful in conveying themselves use techne. People like David So, Wongfu Productions, The Fung Brothers, and Timothy DeLaGhetto all use techne in the context of speech. I realize techne references to writing and that I’m talking mostly about Youtube Channels, and this use, too, is an important fact: I’ve learned that there are multiple ways to carry the discourse of Asian Americans (and their stereotyped problems), and that the visual and spoken word are just as effective as the written.

This is because they all have exigence, each person speaking has an audience to speak to and a reason to carry out their message, all by using ethos, pathos, and logos. Who would trust me if I didn’t have the oh-so obvious cred of being Asian American myself? And who would watch a single one of David So’s videos if he wasn’t talking from personal experience (’cause man his narrative is so authentic and his storytelling hilarious and effective)? Who would bother watching DeLaGhetto’s strange interactions with the camera (sorry but it’s true) unless he made a rational point now and then?

In the end, it’s all about being able to relate, because that’s the best way to get the point across. Otherwise, honestly, we wouldn’t even bother.

But what’s the source, the medium, the very thing through which all of this is even achieved?

(‘Youtube,’ you answer blankly, and granted, that is a totally acceptable response because yes I post a lot from that community.)

New Media. Social media. Mass media. Media media media.

Whatever adjective you decide to slap next to it, the bottom line is that everything we do, talk about, discuss, or publicize, it’s all done through a sort of media. It’s undeniable. There is no argument.

Like I detailed so thoroughly in my earlier post about false geniuses, the world today is so dependent on getting the word out through media, be it blogs, videos, podcasts, or an article. It’s the one thing we look to for information the most nowadays, and hopefully wherever we’re looking, it’s a trustworthy source, determined by the user friendly design of the webpage or fancy edits of a video. Angry Asian Man‘s website is a great example of what a user friendly blog might look like, with it’s familiar Home, About, and Contact tabs.

It’s why I’ve chosen to talk to all of you about Asian American stereotypes and the woes begotten from the resulting misconceptions via a blog. For me, there was no other way to go about setting forth the discourse I wished to engage in.

I’m the kind of person who adores the anonymity and lack of (genuine, meaningful) confrontation in blogging, as well as the ability to construct with words.

(Yes, I am that person.)

I’ve chosen blogging because audience matters, and I’m really much more willing to converse with (or at) people who would rather read articulate and thorough (albeit lengthy and rambly) text. This blog is meant to be read, it’s meant to entertain, so when I’m telling my stories or talking about the Asian American community from my perspective, I want the right people reading.

More and more, the words, “there’s a time and a place” reveal the intent of my blog, and others like it. WordPress is just another place where people’s voices can be heard. In reality, how many times has anyone ever made this horrible, verbal blunder that was said with no ill intent whatsoever, but was horribly insensitive at the same time?

What in the world do you say to that?

You’ll find it harder to correct anyone, especially if you’re someone like me, and especially when you don’t know how to go about it in the first place.

Concerning the Asian American community, I know that generally we’re a soft-spoken group, out there– we make up maybe 5% of America’s population, what are we supposed to do? The struggle between White and Black, Caucasian and African American, has lasted for decades (NAY, CENTURIES), and I realize that perhaps in comparison we’re a recent, minuscule addition to the mix, but we’re still here. At the store, in your classroom, on TV, living our lives and being misrepresented in every way.

A little bit of knowledge goes a long way. To emphasize why I choose to talk about Asian Americans without exhausting the reason too much, with a sorely underrepresented community such as ours, it gets to the point when laughing off non-PC jokes or outwardly ridiculing people for their lack of understanding becomes tiring. It stops working. It’s not effective.

This isn’t a blog where I hold up the “RACIST” flag every time something slightly offensive happens, though goodness knows we have enough people doing that for us already.

(Though the way I could condition people if I were such a person…)

Like my soon-to-be-published blog will thus illustrate, I’m here to educate. Or, here to say that education is the answer. Not necessarily the be all and end all to racism, but the tentative solution to unintentionally hurtful or awkward statements. The people who matter aren’t going to make the same mistake twice when they’re told explicitly what that mistake was (and its consequences).

And it’s not just information and knowledge that needs to be put out there, like a free candy bowl on Halloween (a clear ‘take what you want and don’t talk to me I’m scared of people’ sign). It’s the delivery that counts, the place, the people, the accessibility.

In blogging, knowing your stuff and then being able to back it up is extremely crucial in any discussion. Ever since my little wiki project, I appreciate so much more the importance of sourcing. You can’t understand or trust everything you learn from just experience, even if it’s what draws people in the first place. What if I were to bring up, say, the culture barrier between different Asian Americans and you have no idea what I’m talking about? Questions will be raised and BS will be called.

Most importantly, if I’ve learned anything this semester, it’s that people have got to care about whatever you’re talking about. Start simple, so that there’s something worth sticking around for, and then build up to the stuff that really matters.

And people will care, because

Thank goodness I’m moving over to Tumblr, where text will be less overwhelming and more spread out. Being in the zone can really tire someone out.

This will probably be one of my last… meaningful posts in a long while, so, as farewell…

Here, have a diving giraffe.

It’s been fun, but seriously… I need to get that Tumblr project done.

it’s a glass, it’s a gymnast! it’s–

Tumblr.

I don’t wish to prolong the inevitable.

Since I first created this blog in September (wow, that long ago?), I’ve learned 2 things:

1) There’s so much to talk about! and

2) WordPress.com is not the place to do it.

What am I saying? Well, for 1) I’m saying I’d like to continue the discourse and expand it. More specifically, I’d like to make known the discrepancy between 1.5 and second generation Asian Americans. I want to make known that there is a difference. I want to be able to make it more public what these terms mean and what they imply. I want to show people the difference in cultures, in language, in life. I want to go over some of the more well-known stereotypes that each generation of Asian Americans suffers, to help debunk the myths, to bring into the light the true and the false, the painful vs. the painless. (E.g. small eyes, loud talkers, etc.)

I’m not saying I want to draw the line between bullying and joking, because that all depends on tone, relationship, context, and representation of who is doing what. But like so many advocates of anything know, the first step to action is awareness. The goal is that hopefully, instead of exhorting people to alter their viewpoints, the knowledge imparted into them will do all the work, and people (readers, viewers) will take their own initiative to be more aware, more cautious. More caring, more conscientious, enough so to learn not to assume. And I want to present all this information to the right audience, in a language I can speak.

What do I mean by ‘language’? Well this leads me to 2). Location, location, location.

The question of language is: who am I speaking to? Who is my audience? Where are my people? One thing’s for sure: they aren’t here, and they aren’t on my wordpress blog.

I mentioned in a past post that I prefer to speak in with loose structure (as long as you get what I’m trying to say, who needs it?), casual language (we’re buds! No need to be formal here), and gifs (fun fun fun!). In this way, it makes me able to reach out to those in the same situation, the same generation, and to relate to a world of gifs and sarcasm– but wait, that can’t be right, because I’m describing the people of Tumblr.

I get Tumblr, and Tumblr gets me. And by now, I’m starting to get the sense that those on WordPress.com don’t appreciate the creative use of gifs the way I do. I can only imagine that when they scroll through my blog they see large pieces of text and then obnoxious flashy gifs and say:

So, it seems only natural that I create a Tumblr blog to continue my discourse on.

It’s not just a place with insane fanatics (among other things), but a place with intelligent dialogue, i.e. usually via witty remarks and questionable grammar and punctuation, but meaningful nonetheless. With unique voices and clear messages, Tumblr is filled with conversations that have been avoided too long and need to be had. They say what needs to be said, the things whispered behind hands and not in households or schools where the typical reaction is:

The “Asian American” tag on Tumblr is quite revealing in itself, and with a quick Google search, I easily found a blog about the activist history of Asian Americans and one blog that belongs to an Asian American photographer who seeks to represent the misrepresented.

As to how I wish to continue the discourse of my blog (read: reactions to racism via personal/others’ accounts), I find myself much inspired by two particular blogs: Disgrasian and Angry Asian Man.

Disgrasian is a website run by two Asian American women who write and talk about racism with basically no filter. The writing is quirky, and it uses personal opinion and experience to the uttermost to get their points through. They do their best to answer questions about racism, whether it’s about Asians or not (though Asian Americans are the focus). In one particular post, Jen, one of the writers, does a scene-by-scene breakdown of the new Karate Kid, tearing it apart with the assistance of her mother.

Disgrasian.com

Disgrasian.com

The Angry Asian Man blog has a voice and style that I relate to and appreciate. He posts about what’s relevant, interesting, or extremely strange, and it all relates to Asian Americans and racism, all from his perspective. On the About page where he talks about himself and how the blog came to be, he gives the motive and reason for why he writes, and really, for why we all write:

Mind you [...] it was all very facetious. A big joke about hyperbolic, misguided Asian pride. And most people knew I was joking, save for a few who just got annoyed at my “zeal” [...] or those who were truly concerned that I might actually lead some some sort of dangerous Asian uprising. Watch out for that guy —he’s really vocal.

However, in time it became apparent to me that I was actually only half joking. The concerns I was raising were funny because there was truth to them. Because racism does exist, and because Asian Americans still do struggle with issues of acceptance in this country. My context for discussing these problems often came from comic exaggeration, because at times, it was the only way to make such ugly issues open and approachable.

So Angry Asian Man became a cause. And just like Angry Asian Man, the views expressed in the contents of this website will inevitably be ridiculously zealous and exaggerated. Of course, it’s all in fun, but just like the persona of Angry Asian Man, rooted in truth.

Angry Asian Man

blog.angryasianman.com

I understand his mentality very well.

To sum up, with wordpress, in terms of the discourse I’ve been in engaging in and blogging furiously about, I seem to have run into a wall.

Thankfully, the Tumblr blog is under way. It’s up, but still a lot of work has to be done, so until I come out with the half-finished product, look out for the post!

Until then, keep waiting.

Assuming the suspense doesn’t kill you.

dun dun dun DONE.

Guess who’s contributed a little something-something to the Wikipedia community and hasn’t been deleted yet?

This girl.

Time to pull out the Chandler dance.

Why am I so excited? Because it is downright terrifying to edit a Wikipedia page with the thought that a moderator (or mods as they’re affectionately referred to as) is lurking around their territory and could strike out at any moment and go “no! Not good enough!”

Anyway, I added a total of maybe 150 words, because that’s all I felt confident enough to write; but while researching for the Asian Americans section in the Second Generation Immigrants stub, I found out that there’s a wealth of information that could have been written about on that page. I also learned, however, the importance of hypertextuality: the ability to link to other Wikipedia pages within the article was so crucial to elaborating on a hypothetically unfamiliar term that didn’t have the relevancy to be elaborated on in the same article.

My process consisted of mostly researching papers or articles in the social sciences / humanities that talked about second generation Asian Americans, simply enough. There’s a surprising amount of things said on the topic. Kudos to you, Asian-American grad students! (Because who are we kidding, they’re should make up at least 99.9% of those writing these things.)

I see now the importance of linking and references more than I did before, because there really is something scary about being told off for not getting the facts right or not backing it up with anything solid.

It truly was more difficult than I had anticipated, though, to come up with a voice, an objective phrasing that wouldn’t give away any sort of bias or personal experience, since that’s what I do best (in blog or memoir form). Even the formality of each sentence I wrote was either too much or not enough at certain times; I found myself typing a sentence and staring at it for a good five minutes with this face:

…and then I would delete the sentence or rearrange the words like a frantic game of Boggle until I was satisfied.

But I’ve learned that as an Asian American, if I’m going to go about speaking to people about their prejudices and proving them that it should truly be taken as a problem, I’m going to need some evidence on my side, some accounts of history– and I’m going to need to be as convincing as possible, by not showing bias myself. At least, when providing the facts as evidence, the facts should be able to speak for themselves without me adding a “you racist chauvinistic pig don’t you see now” at the end of it.

I just want to add how amazing the Visual Editing program (that Wikipedia has recently added to the website for editors) is. It’s pretty darn fantastic, and it makes it so easy to edit, breaking down the barriers of having to know code to be able to contribute to the world’s largest encyclopedia.

My greatest worry right now is that someone will call me out as biased simply for revealing my ethnicity in the username I created, but I’m told that it isn’t something to really worry about. I think I’m just grateful that the particular page I chose to edit isn’t a busy one, so not many people are looking on and nit-picking as I work.

All in all, I’m quite pleased with the result. I hope my words contributed something or worth to that little stub.

say it ain’t (david) so!

Yup. Again.

Here’s a bit of old news: this year’s Miss America was the first to be of Indian descent! And just to reiterate David So from his video, she was Indian-American, as in Asian-American. (Yes, India is a part of Asia please do your homework.)

Here’s another bit of old news: racism still exists! Maybe we’re all tired of seeing it, hearing it, and shaking our heads at it, but it’s still as prevalent as it’s always been– prejudice will always exist in some way or form especially concerning skin pigmentation or outward appearance and yada yada… we get it.

Nevertheless, I appreciate that David So brings the event up in not only a celebratory gesture, but an exposing one, albeit in a slightly crude and condescending way. His delivery is succinct, quirky, and fun to watch: it’s what keeps many Asian-and-non Americans alike subscribed to his Youtube channel.

As you know, I’m quite the fan of David So’s videos and their messages, mostly because of the way he conveys them, and that’s what I’m here to talk about today: why does it what the man does work so well?

Let’s break it down the way Porter wants us to.

Who here has ever watched a Youtube video?

That had better be the reaction I get, you with your ability to access this website in the first place. And based off the fact that of the top fifteen or so most subscribed Youtube channels, half of them are vlogging Youtubers, I’m going to freely assume that vlogs are well known by now.

Vlogs are visual, and the way David So represents himself on camera in each of his vlogs paints a quick picture even in the first couple of seconds, which in turn determines whether we’d like to stay and watch the video, to give him some time out of our day and listen to what he has to say. Online identity: it’s the most important thing out there nowadays, especially when you put your self out on camera, personality, face, all out for the world to judge, scripted or not. He’s not afraid to use all he’s got to put himself out there.

Right off the bat David So, without even having to explicitly say so, makes sure to position the camera so that he can talk to us at eye-level– he knows what we see, and the video automatically feels like a conversation, a rant, a heart-to-heart from one friend to another– only he’s a loud, fast-talking Asian-American with a big personality, humility (he reveals in many of his videos a self-consciousness regarding his slightly chubby nature), and he talks with a loose, slang-filled language straight from the ghettos where he grew up. And all he wants to do is make us laugh, and maybe have something to think about at the end of the day.

Like his speech, his cuts are quick, because he wants his videos to be as content-filled as possible. And, sometimes he’ll cut himself off and use silence or the nuances of his expressions to imply what he feels he doesn’t need to infer.

I use David’s videos because they speak to the audience I’d like to have on this blog: educated with a sense of humor. I discuss and bring up anecdotes about Asian stereotypes and racism etc. for awareness, but I’m not looking for a fight while I do it. I think it’s safe to say that my posts so far have been fairly light-hearted, if not a little indignant in the face of the ignorant, on behalf of those subject to unfair judgment.

His messages are short, sweet, and to the point– it’s what I’m working on, but his tone matches very much how I wish to portray the “exigence” of Asian stereotypes in an Asian-American world. He talks freely and uses his opinion, knowledge, and history to back up every single one of his points, and it’s the type of voice I currently am attempting to cultivate.

(Although, he is much looser in his language than I am, and he’s not afraid to point fingers or straight-out ostracize someone for their opinion– as much as he wishes for all to be educated, there are some people who cannot change until they want to.)

David uses Youtube, and right now as the internet’s most popular video-sharing website, it’s the right place to be if you want your voice, face, and opinion known: as a subscriber to his channel, when he posts, I’ll see it on my subscriptions page within the hour. The mere fact that I was able to embed the Miss America is Indian rant onto this blog makes for 90% of the reason I’m talking about it now– it’s easily accessible and universal in its function.

(You just press play. Seriously.)

For the most part, David aims toward an audience that: tolerates crude language (and sometimes crude humor), has an interest in what he is trying to say, and will laugh. (His channel is even called David So Comedy. You can’t get much more straightforward than that.) He even enables likes, embeds, and shares, as well as comments to continue the video’s dialogue (or something of the like) below the video.

He even engages with his own comment section, showing that he’s paying attention and that he does care about his viewers, though some of the time it’s an opportunity for him to textually tell someone of.

Generally, if the topic of his rant is controversial enough, or it emotionally affects viewers the same way it did David, there tends to be a decent engagement in the comment section. In the comments section of the Miss America is Indian rant I embedded, there were comments like:

Look here’s how I see it from two perspectives. The U.S. is a nation formed by immigrants of all nations around the world. Why is it so weird a beautiful woman with a foreign heritage (like everyone else in the U.S) be nominated Ms. America. And my second point if you want to get REALLY technical, why aren’t any actual Native Americans becoming Ms. America. If your going with that point of view anyone who is not at least half native american needs to gtfo of the competition.

The comment had 18 thumbs up. Usually when I see engagement, a ‘hierarchy’ of comments apart from the video about the video, it’s a sign that the video is either a) popular and/or b) very relevant.

Like many popular vloggers on Youtube, David makes videos for a living. He makes them because he wanted to make a living out of making videos, skits, rants, etc. In his most recent video, David So takes the time at the end to promote some of the work he’s been doing outside of Youtube, as well as to personally thank his viewers. And it’s not the first time he’s done it– many other vloggers make similar thank-you videos in gratitude when they’ve reached a certain milestone in their career if not for Youtube and their fans and supporters.

He’s motivated by the pure creative need to create videos, and so long as his videos continue to be engaging and of the quality we subscribed to him for, we, his viewers, will continue to watch, and support in any way we can, even if that means simply pressing the like button or favoriting a video. For now, I’m a fan.

David’s relatable and relevant, especially his thoughts, views, and attitude on Asian stereotypes. He gets it, and he knows how to work his audience– so for now, he’s got my view.

second gen

What, are we talking pokémon or people?

Sorry, is my inner geek showing?

Moving on.

Of course I’m talking about Second Generation immigrants, but more specifically, second gen Asian-Americans. Why are we still termed “immigrants”? No idea. But I don’t want to get into semantics or PC phrasing: I want to talk about the Wiki articles themselves.

*Gasp* Am I treating Wikipedia.org as untrustworthy now? Am I starting to nitpick? Am I getting into a fight about the way Asian-Americans are portrayed in Wiki articles??

Calm down. I have nearly always supported Wikipedia in their collaborative endeavor to provide information; it’s by far the most reliable online encyclopedia concerning its summarization and accessibility. It’s constantly evolving, and if there’s one thing I respect in any person or thing, it’s growth. [insert pokémon reference; evolve!]

That’s what I’m here to talk about today: my own contribution!

I’ve created the account, and now I need to learn the lingo and do the research in order to add my say. What, you ask, can an Asian-fail college undergrad geek contribute to Wikipedia? Not much. But the goal is to add something, and I wish, as a second gen representative, to help edit/add on to the pages Second-generation immigrants in the US or Immigrant generations. I’m compelled to because as an Asian-American second gen, I feel almost… obligated to add, to help represent. The Immigrant generations second gen stub definitely has more to be expanded on, whereas US Second Gen Immigrants seems much more brushed up and finalized, so I have yet to decide which one I wish to attempt to help more. But as both are generally on the same topic, my research will still be relevant either way.

I’ll research other hyperlinks in the wiki articles already available, and hopefully I’ll find social study articles or statistics about second gen Asian-Americans. Ultimately, I hope to learn more about what it means to be a second gen, to understand other people’s perspectives on being a second gen, and in the end, just learn how Wiki people do what they do.

Most likely, however, whatever I submit will be answered with:

But hey, a girl’s gotta try.

I’m actually quite inspired by the following video to research, or at least insert a discussion about the discrepancy between second gen and 1.5 generation Asian American values.

i’m not crying thas just school bus in my eye

(Yeah that’s right I’m not only obsessed with crude humor and ghetto-speaking Koreans)

don’t be that person

…you’ll avoid a lot of trouble if you’re not.

Sorry to those who are already tired of it, but yes, I am using David So’s videos as examples again. But I’m only doing it because he makes some excellent points.

This time, I’ll be expanding on my latest post about Asian stereotypes.

What’s my problem this time? It’s that stereotypes, or more specifically Asian stereotypes, are turning people into fake geniuses!

What are fake geniuses? They’re people who need and want to know about everything (as it is to be human), but they can’t, because that’s just plain impossible, so they take shortcuts, they generalize and pretend from then on to understand the context of all things. My main issue is with those who pretend they know everything they need to know about Asians, and therefore do not bother to delve in any deeper.

But like how we found out that the source of Asian Stereotypes is lack of education and ignorance, we need to know also what creates these so-called “fake geniuses.” The answer? New Media. Or more specifically, online popularity.

Some online memes, personas, tags, and whatnot have more of an impact than others, not because they are more important than others, but simply because they are more universally understood or accepted among multiple communities. And as much as we hate it, we have to admit: generally the most popular opinion is acknowledged as true fact. 

But it’s so unfortunately true. The Internet is becoming a place of “cursory information,” where whenever we don’t know about something but don’t have the time to get into it, we search it up (hats off to Google and Wikipedia) and look for what is virtually a cliffnotes version of the real thing, where we can find the most basic knowledge of this new thing just so we can stay in the loop, never having known the original source.

New media has caused this mentality that we can get away with knowing the minimum of something (a community, a person, a TV show, etc.), that using tidbits of information we can create shortcuts into people’s worlds. (For example: as a Sherlock fan, when I found that other Sherlock fans liked Doctor Who, I learned the least I needed to know in order to understand the inside jokes that occasionally came up on my Dashboard.)

I’m a victim. We’re all victims, because we all want to look like we know what’s going on.

Stereotypes are the shortcuts into peoples lives. It’s easier to generalize, to put people into little boxes because it’s too much work to divide that box into sections, or take out a new box to fill…

Well guess what? It ain’t that much work. Especially if you happen to be putting your own friends and acquaintances in those boxes.

I realize that there is this temptation to take what is generally represented in life and apply it to everything else, so that you are no longer confused. But life is confusing, it’s complex, and that’s what makes it beautiful and worth living, so stereotyping will not help you catch up with the world. It’s not something you can just check off a list next to “know everything about Asian people… slanty eyes, Korean BBQ, noodles, yup that’s it.” You’re just going to run yourself into another hole.

I’m not saying you have to know every single thing about absolutely every Asian out there: I’m saying to be aware. I, personally, am very aware that it depends on circumstance, whether you encounter a person who is Asian often. But let’s be honest, Asians take up a majority of the world, and we’re dominating, so there’s a good chance you’ve met a couple by now. Yes, I’m speaking to non-Asians and us Asians, because it really goes every which way. (Everyone’s a little bit racist ♫)

I would like to say that I grew up very aware of my own race, since I was the minority (like, maybe one out of the twenty or so Asians in my elementary school), but I wasn’t, at all. I grew up in a fairly diverse city, in diverse classrooms, and I didn’t learn about prejudice until I started caring about grades. I knew about stereotypes from movies and media, but I wasn’t aware of negative connotation associated with them.

Growing up, my best friends have been Caucasian, half-African American, half-Chinese, and Korean. It was from my close friends and family that I learned what culture was, how the way they lived and who they were didn’t make them any less of a person, and it didn’t make them any easier to label. I learned that my culture was different from another person’s, that we can all grow up differently, we can go home to a different house, a different world… but we don’t have to let people remain ignorant about it.

We need to learn when and where to dig deeper, who in our lives is worth knowing about, and we need to decide not whether we value culture, but whether we value our friends. Culture is a part of who we are, and if we care for our friends in any way, then by default we care to know about the way they grew up, where they came from.

We are clearly limited by the people we know and the world’s we grow up, so I speak to the one’s who struggle to make clear to themselves or to others the importance of depth. Popular opinion masks depth, and it lets us think we can get away with knowing of an ethnicity rather than getting to its roots.

For me, it’s always been the little things. I can testify to being asked if I’m Korean, Japanese, or half-Caucasian simply based on my appearance. I’m never very offended by the suggestions but please, people, don’t guess unless I ask you to (which will be never, because how awkward is that guessing game).

Me being Asian shouldn’t stop me from connecting with anyone else, and me being Asian shouldn’t stop you from asking questions you think you already know the answers to (because newsflash, you probably don’t). Maybe I’m able to connect easily with other Asian Americans on things like food preferences and family values, but I’m sure as heck not going to understand where my Asian-American roommate comes from when she starts talking about the Hispanic neighborhood she grew up in, or my fried-Oreo-loving housemate from Georgia. And I’m going to get a completely different perspective from my other housemate from Taiwan, born, raised, and then made to move to Europe for premed training, forced to pick up Polish.

We’re all different, whether Asian or not, so please, don’t be a fake genius, and don’t even pretend you know all you need to know about someone based on how we look.